Segregation > Discrimination > Denied Right to Try > Negligence > Mistreatment > Death

He was treated poorly and unfairly because he had insurance but was denied alternatives and told only 1 medication was available because everything else was NOT on their formulary. And if I had PULL I needed to use it.

No visitations allowed, no patient family representation, the family was separated at the door and not allowed into hospital, No phone calls were ever returned, denied food and water the whole time he was in the hospital, denied the “right to try medication”, only said one (1) medication was allowed, was discriminated and looked down upon when asking for alternative medications. No phone and other personal items placed near him, all items out of reach, told not to get up, had to use hand urinal versus someone coming into room to help use restroom, NO sunlight or blinds opened, no vitamin C or Vitamin D was administered, No doctors or nurses in room, segregated, discriminated against bc not vaccinated, treated like he had the black plague. The doctor walked in with NO PPE (when family was allowed to see him), but we had to dress out from head to toe with double mask, a face shield, gloves, gown, head wrap, use hand sanitizer, etc….. before we could say goodbye but didn’t realize we were saying goodbye. When I asked for him to be transferred to another hospital, I was told if I had pull, to use it. 

They also asked how I got certain hospitals numbers for ECMO Beds and why did I have them. The nurses sat outside his window, with door shut and and just watched the machine and was not with him, just looked through the glass. The nurses also questioned our questions, like where we were getting information, we said common sense…. I said why does that matter, I am offering another perspective and being shot down for thinking outside of the box or questioning the intentions of the ones who say this is the only way. 

 My Husband was segregated/discriminated against the moment he entered the hospital through the double doors. No family members were allowed to stay with him to advocate on the his/patient behalf even when his o2 was in the 80s which is stroke area…. but they said he could represent himself because he was over 18. Son wasn’t allowed to stay. They told us that we were not allowed to stay or visit. We could only talk to him via phone/facetime which was 30 mins before putting him on the vent on a holiday weekend Friday evening around 6:30 before shift change. Which was very rushed and hurried like we had to do it now. And Husbands last text message said that Friday was likely his best day.

They placed his phone out of his reach and would not allow him to use or reach because they didn’t want him getting up before placing him on the vent. They did not administer any food or water (his text even proves this) and denied him access to the bathroom. He had to use the hand held urinal. Denied him antibodies (monocol) because he wasn’t vaccinated. The nurses barely came in room to check on him because they would have to dress out in multiple layers of PPE gear, but yet Doctor WORE NOTHING to enter the room. Kept blinds shut when requested for them to be open. Multiple phone calls never returned and always told short staffed, but yet on the very last day multiple nurses were there in hallways talking and in his room playing with ventilator saying it was clogged but not servicing him. I said do I need to get an extra filter? They only looked through a glass window to observe my husband. Never flipped him after he was put on the ventilator said he was agitated. and It was a rush all the sudden to put him on the vent after they had just told us 30 mins before he was doing well….Husband even stated he had felt better, so not sure why he was even vented. (Probably because he had Great Insurance along with my mother in law who had same insurance and she passed away 6 weeks later.) 

When the family was allowed to see him before he passed the doctor walked in without any PPE on but made us dress from head to toe.

Also there was aprox 3 Respiratory people working on the ventilator telling me the filters kept clogging….I said do we need to replace them, or clean them. They just looked at me and said it was his lungs that were causing them to clog.

Right before he passed the nurse walked into the family room multiple times with the handheld breather pump that would be used while administering CPR, asking me again if I wanted him DNR… I told them to be with my husband and to quit asking me and to go FUCKING help him. I was asked more than 3 times.

 Family was only allowed to see my husband moments before he passed and told we could only stay a few minutes. Family was questioning a lot of things and the doctor only talked to me at the time of telling me he would not make it. They did not call any other times or did not communicate with the family, never returned phone calls or questions.