My husband was sent from urgent care by ambulance to their hospital affiliate ER where he was told he was positive for COVID.  Admitted to the COVID floor, and ER doctor said he wanted to give Remdesivir.  I adamantly told him NO Remdesivir, and husband also said, “No.”  Found out next day that he had been given 4 doses that night.  I do not know if any more was given as I cannot obtain medical records (trying to get but no response from hospital), and I was only allowed up to see him between 4 & 6 each afternoon.

If I left early, could not return and no one else could come to hospital.  When in ICU, bi-pap machine blew out his lung the day before death. Infectious disease doctor needed to put chest tube in, but wanted him on vent. Husband did not want this, but he was placed on it because he was told he wouldn’t make it through without the vent because he was too weak.

He coded twice in the early A.M. the next day. I asked for an EEG to see brain wave activity, and said they couldn’t do it unless he was taken off all meds.

I requested he be removed from life support, as we had talked many times, that if he couldn’t live a normal life then I was to remove any life support. I asked nephrologist who wanted to do bedside dialysis, since he had no urine output in 4 hrs, after 2nd code, what type of life he would have if by some miracle I could bring him home.  She stated he would be on a vent the rest of his life and probably dialysis.  I made the decision to pull the vent, and he died approximately 10 minutes later with no response whatsoever.

Side note:  husband never was offered a  shower, clean linens, brushing of teeth, or any hygiene during the entire hospital stay. I brought him food and drink up, and changed bed linens, gown, and gave a bath to him everyday. I cleaned the room many days, and cleaning personnel were present only 2 days that I was aware of.